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Boy ♡ Man

No one ever suspected us because he was a drag queen

This is one of 24 positive reports from the book ‘And Then I Became Gay:’ Young Men’s Stories.
Published first:  Book   Time to read: 1 min
Report-ID: 85438  (to the German version)
Source: ... And Then I Became Gay - Young Men's stories
Author: Ritch C. Savin-Williams
Perspective: grown up boy
Start of relationship: unknown
Age of the boy: 17
Age of the man: 32
Sexual id (boy): homosexual
Country: USA
Language: English
Plausibility: 4 of 5

Contextual links

[Case 1](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-01/) | [Case 2](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-02/) | [Case 3](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-03/) | [Case 4](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-04/) | [Case 5](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-05/) | [Case 6](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-06/) | [Case 7](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-07/) | [Case 8](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-08/) | [Case 10](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-10/) | [Case 11](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-11/) | [Case 12](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-12/) | [Case 13](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-13/) | [Case 14](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-14/) | [Case 15](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-15/) | [Case 16](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-16/) | [Case 17](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-17/) | [Case 18](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-18/) | [Case 20](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-20/) | [Case 21](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-21/) | [Case 22](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-22/) | [Case 23](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-23/) | [Case 24](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-24/) | [Case 25](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-25/) | [Case 26](/en/reports/unknown/sw-case-26/)

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The cases 9 and 19 where a negative experience for the boy and are therefore not included in JUMIMA. They can be read in the article linked below or in the book.

Source: Rind, B. Gay and Bisexual Adolescent Boys' Sexual Experiences With Men: An Empirical Examination of Psychological Correlates in a Nonclinical Sample. Arch Sex Behav 30, 345–368 (2001). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1010210630788

Case 24 (boy 17, man 32). “Just before I signed up for military, I went to a gay bar and met an older man there. No one ever suspected us because he was a drag queen so they thought we were a hetero couple. We went together for three weeks before I went into the military. It was great sex, but I wasn’t in love with him. It was mostly oral sex.”

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